The Courage To Count
Do you care “too much” about what others think? Are you constantly worried about what you said or did to offend someone? There is a subtle trap that we often fall into that can effect every aspect of our life. An when I say affect, every aspect of our life that is exactly what I mean. We defer our own needs and desires in an attempt to get someone else to like us. Pleasers are often like chameleons, they want to blend in and not oppose anyone just to be liked by everybody in every situation.
- You try to be nice to others to avoid being rejected.
- You don’t know what really makes “you” happy.
- You tend to put the needs of others before your own needs.
- You find yourself saying yes to requests when you really want to say no.
- You suppress your frustrations to avoid confrontation with others.
- You feel worn out and overwhelmed all the time.
- You replay social encounters in your head and worry about their thoughts.
- You have a difficult time making decisions.
- You feel guilty when you take time for yourself to exercise, read, meditate or relax.
- You feel like you give and give and nobody gives back to you.
If you struggle with any (or all) of these challenges, you are not alone. This may be the single most limiting factor that stunts you’re success. You will never be truly happy if you are spending all your time and energy trying to make everyone else happy.
Look for future articles on finding the courage to count.