3 Tips for an Easy Thanksgiving
Some of us will spend the day eating peacefully with family, some of us may eat peacefully but alone, but for some of us the holiday brings chaos, drama, and family feuds waiting to happen…that somehow we could never go without. So for the communication theme and the holiday, may I present: 3 tips to make it make it the most successful Thanksgiving yet!
- For the relative that needs chaos, they just can’t go with the flow, or let things go smoothly: Just agree with them. Ex. Them: “I can’t believe she wore that.” or “I never did like that.” You: “I know.”
- The relative that is full of emotion, positive or negative: Meet them where they are emotionally. Ex. Them: “l am so sick and tired of all this!” You: “That must be hard for you.” or “Wow, that sounds…___.” (hard or great, ect.)
- For the child who is misbehaving: Acknowledge what they want. Then give them a more constructive way of getting it. (People will be amazed at your ability.) Ex. Them: ”I waaaaant pumpkin pie first!” You: “You wanted…_____”. (If you don’t know what they are throwing a fit about, guess. It will engage them in conversation rather than a power struggle.) Then follow with, “You may not whine when you want something. When you want pumpkin pie, you make ask nicely.”
If none of the above work, lower your expectations.